In the same way that knowing a few key questions makes it easier to navigate a foreign country, a few rudimentary phrases can help teach you the skills to communicate in marriage. Be honest. Says veteran marriage counselor Randi Gunther, Ph.D.: \"In my 40 years of listening to couples, I\'ve noticed that the best communicators use the same words, and I\'m always surprised by how few people know them.\" Practice these if you want your relationship to last longer than the average trip to Paris.