10 false notions that romantic novels encourage 1. Every relationship ends with a happily ever after: While a romance novel may end on a happy note, life is a different story with ups and downs that you have to deal with. 2. All romantic heroes are tall, dark and handsome: This myth is slowly changing - all romantic heroines are beautiful, proportionate, curvy with a beautiful complexion. Romance is not only about the physical attributes. It's more about connecting with the person and sharing a comfort level. 3. Grand expensive gestures are the best way to express love: You don't always need expensive declarations of love to know that someone cares for you. 4. Condoms are barriers between you and your loved one: Love making scenes in romance novels are not always a reflection of reality, and while the protagonist of a romance novel can afford to risk things, can you? 5. Relationships are easy and things automatically fall into place: You have to work on your relationship, no matter how perfect things may seem. 6. You will always find happiness with Mr Money Bags: Financial security is not a guarantee of everlasting happiness. It can make things easy for you but is not the only basis for a good relationship. 7. Forcing you to do something you are not comfortable with in the bedroom is a hint of uncontrolled passion: When an individual says no, we should respect that and no matter how passionate you feel you can't force yourself on someone. 8. Drug addicts, abusers, alcoholics, skirt chasers can all be reformed with love: While people change it's important to be realistic. Taking on the responsibility of an addict or an alcoholic demands a lot from you as a person. So, ask yourself are you secure enough to deal with such situations. 9. Candlelight dinners, flowers, expensive gifts and trips are the only way to romance your loved one: Love is not about extravagant gifts or candelight dinners. It's about caring for each other and being there always. 10. Follow your heart no matter what, even when things sound stupid and absurd: Have a balance when it comes to making decisions. Listen to your heart and mind, so that you strike a balance between logic and emotions.