flirting with danger at work
Last Updated : GMT 06:49:16
Arab Today, arab today
Arab Today, arab today
Last Updated : GMT 06:49:16
Arab Today, arab today

Flirting with danger at work

Arab Today, arab today

Arab Today, arab today Flirting with danger at work

London - Arabstoday

Lisa Rundle, a former Penguin employee, recently crashed into our consciousness when she alleged that Indian publishing poster boy and novelist David Davidar sexually harassed her. In his defence, with blow by blow details of what-she-did and what-he-did, Davidar called their relationship a consensual flirtation. Have you been yo-yoing about which side to be on? Have you caught yourself thinking back to something you said or did in office that could be construed as harassment? Have you been wondering if something someone said or did was harmless or ill-intentioned? Relax. The line between flirting and harassment is not as thin as it may appear. It is, in fact, a thick boundary, according to sociologist Maithili Ganjoo, who believes that it is important to address this urban phenomenon. "We are spending more time at work than home. Traditional norms of behaviour at the workplace are getting more relaxed. You tend to form relationships at office. Even then, the distinction between flirtation and harassment is not amorphous. In case of flirtation, there is a tacit understanding between two people. It does happen that an agreement to flirt, like in a marriage, sometimes breaks down. In case of sexual harassment, one person's dignity gets hurt. But a person in a responsible position should know better than to abuse his power," she says. It's about power You've heard this before. Remember the Demi Moore-Michael Douglas starrer Disclosure? Sexual harassment is not about sex, it's about power. Writer Vandana Shah agrees with the adage. "Nine times out of ten it is about dominance. A friend of mine was in a relationship with a superior. After they broke up, he started harassing her. He made her work life miserable. Finally, when he ordered her transfer, she sued him, and eventually won," Shah says. This usually means that you can have a flirtation with an equal but harassment tends to come from someone who has a social advantage over you and can exploit it. You can tell Talking about the jungle, you should trust your instinct. It is your basic instinct - when something is not right, you can feel it. The dynamics are nuanced and you have to watch out. An ad professional, who was witness to a harassment case at her workplace, says if it bothers you, then it is harassment. "I keep begging with a colleague to marry me," she says. "But he knows it's a joke." Similarly, if you've cracked a joke with innuendoes and the person who it was intended for is not particularly amused, you must immediately know that you've taken them outside their comfort zone. It's basic etiquette to respect the other person's opinions. What you say or do turns into harassment when it is not accepted in the same spirit that it was intended. It's unwelcome What is acceptable for one person may not hold true for another. In the midst of that subjectivity, the only way to keep yourself on the right side is get the social cues. Lawyer Mihir Desai says the single most important characteristic of harassment is that it is unwelcome. "Different people have different comfort levels. The point is not to adhere to some form of Victorian morality but to respect how another person feels," says Desai. That is, if someone says no, get the point. Be empowered As for women, you are well within your rights to say no if you don't like something. So, recognise the power. You can flirt in the workplace without feeling that you're becoming an evil person. Feminist Jane Gallop makes a distinction between 'power feminists' who are pro-sex and what she calls 'victim feminists' who are not. She argues that sexual harassment, which used to be about sexism, should not be about anything that's sexual. Ultimately, you must be your own moral police. Flirting never hurt anyone. But if it hurts, remember it's much beyond flirting.

arabstoday
arabstoday

Name *

E-mail *

Comment Title*

Comment *

: Characters Left

Mandatory *

Terms of use

Publishing Terms: Not to offend the author, or to persons or sanctities or attacking religions or divine self. And stay away from sectarian and racial incitement and insults.

I agree with the Terms of Use

Security Code*

flirting with danger at work flirting with danger at work

 



Name *

E-mail *

Comment Title*

Comment *

: Characters Left

Mandatory *

Terms of use

Publishing Terms: Not to offend the author, or to persons or sanctities or attacking religions or divine self. And stay away from sectarian and racial incitement and insults.

I agree with the Terms of Use

Security Code*

flirting with danger at work flirting with danger at work

 



GMT 12:47 2016 Thursday ,01 September

'La La Land' musical masterpiece dazzles Venice film fest

GMT 12:42 2017 Monday ,20 February

Dalia al-Behairy begins 'Yawmiyat Zoga Mafrosa'

GMT 19:01 2017 Wednesday ,30 August

Oil prices down as US reels from Harvey

GMT 04:19 2017 Monday ,08 May

National forces attack mercenaries in Taiz

GMT 19:21 2017 Sunday ,07 May

Iranian Film Week opens in Baghdad

GMT 21:33 2017 Sunday ,30 July

Arab Quartet meeting kicks off in Bahrain

GMT 17:17 2016 Friday ,07 October

Aleppo bleeds as US and Russia spar

GMT 12:03 2015 Monday ,21 December

Nepal protester killed in constitutional crisis clash

GMT 09:47 2016 Thursday ,22 December

Trump vows to cut F-35 spending, as leaked memo

GMT 21:44 2017 Friday ,15 December

King establishes Hawar Development Committee

GMT 20:57 2017 Tuesday ,16 May

Naval Forces rescue 23 tourists in Hurghada

GMT 12:56 2017 Monday ,11 December

Lyon leave it late, Balotelli with Nice winner

GMT 06:18 2017 Thursday ,19 October

Russian delegation meets with Julphar chairman

GMT 21:20 2017 Monday ,23 October

Nasr, delegation of London Stock Exchange
Arab Today, arab today
 
 Arab Today Facebook,arab today facebook  Arab Today Twitter,arab today twitter Arab Today Rss,arab today rss  Arab Today Youtube,arab today youtube  Arab Today Youtube,arab today youtube

Maintained and developed by Arabs Today Group SAL.
All rights reserved to Arab Today Media Group 2021 ©

Maintained and developed by Arabs Today Group SAL.
All rights reserved to Arab Today Media Group 2021 ©

arabstoday arabstoday arabstoday arabstoday
arabstoday arabstoday arabstoday
arabstoday
بناية النخيل - رأس النبع _ خلف السفارة الفرنسية _بيروت - لبنان
arabstoday, Arabstoday, Arabstoday